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DOES YOUR JOB SUCK?

Once a client of mine refered my name to a young lady who was fed up with her current job.she was told that i can solve her issues and make her life a better place. I met this sweet lady,and even before i could extend her a warm hello,she began with "I hate my job.i hate the people in my office.i hate the environment of my office and the work load is even unbearable. i had never seen as much anger in any human as i saw in her.she restlessly asked can you help me?.I heard her calmly and i told her firmly that 'Mam i am afraid but your situation is about to get worse,she said what do you mean? i believe they gonna fire you?i said.she said Fire me? why on the earth they would fire me?
Have you ever noticed when somebody is about to loose something that they've been complianing about,whether thats a car,a job, a mate whatever ,suddenly it takes a brand new value.so she looked at me and said,What can i do? i said mam i have got an idea that will absolutely gurantee you that it will positively,definately,absolutely work for you if you do it. she said,i will do anything within reason.i asked her to analyse her words.each sentence that came out of her was negative.
I gave her a task to write down "i like my job because..."she said,that'd be easy,i like none about my job,none about the people over there.i asked do they pay you to work.she confessed that she is doing this job only because she gets paid.i insisited still to write more.In 100% of the cases,no exception, people who don't take step no.1 cannot take step no.2. she seemed convinced and she took out her notebook and started writing down the points.
Before we got through ,there was already 22 things she liked about her job,not only they paid her for working there,they paid above average,she had 3 weeks vacation with pay,she had a retirement plan,she had health insurance,accidental insurance and life insurance.she got paid for every seminar she conducted.she was also a profit sharing partner in a project.after finishing step 1.i told her to go home and stand in front of a mirror and read out loud those 22 lines with the beginning "i love my job because i m paid above average ,i have a retirement plan and the rest...you will sleep better the first night and next day you wake up with enthusiam and stand again in front of the mirror and say it again.that was step2.so that was easy.wasn't it? well things that are easy to do arealso easy not to do. 
So you see there is something hidden in every line she said-that is- 'i am GRATFUL'.Zig ziglar once said"THE HEALTHIEST OF ALL HUMAN EMOTION IS GRATITUDE".
The reality is, you will start to become someone who is a 'good finder' than a 'bad finder'.
After few months i accidently met her in a seminar and asked her "how you doing "she said i m doing wonderfully well! she further said you cannot believe how much those people down there have changed. i almost laughed,like you are smiling right now and i said to myself and saying it to you aswell.
For things to change for you,'you' got to change. otherwise its gonna be,like it has always been.the only way when it gets better for you is when you get better.one should not spend major time on minor things.people with negative and static thoughts spend their major time in minor things.i personally do and i suggest people to keep a check at the end of the month about how majorly they have spent time on minor things or they are smart enough to do the reverse.
cheers!
MORE POWER TO YOU.


ANVESHI

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