Dear big brown eyed woman, Where you are not is just as important as where you are. Who you are not is more important than who you are. "i know who i am not "- The process of Elimination.Eliminate who your not first. just because you are doing alot more doesn't mean you are getting a lot more done.Don't confuse movement with progress. As Mathew MCconaughey says- defining ourselves of what we are not is usually the first step that leads to really knowing who we are . You know that group of friends that you hang out with? That really might not bring out the best in you? You know, they gossip too much, or they kind of shady. They really aren't gonna be there for you in a pinch Or how about that bar that you keep going to, that you always seem to have the worst hangover from? Or that computer screen right? the computer screen that keeps giving you an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real hum