THE NEED TO BE ALONE

Alone is a word which is not associated with any good feelings .we don't even like the sound of it.Although i am talking about aloneness not loneliness.there is a difference.Lonleliness is a lack, a feeling that something is missing, a depression, a need, an incompleteness, an absence. Aloneness is presence, fullness, aliveness, joy of being, overflowing Self love. You are complete. Nobody is needed, you are enough. 

   because our culture places such a high value on sociability it is awkward to understand how much at certain points we just need to be alone .we take other people very seriously perhaps more seriously than those in the uncomplicated ranks of the endlessly gregarious. we listen closely to stories we give ourselves to others. we respond with emotion and empathy but as a result we cannot keep swimming in company indefinately.at a certain point we've had enough of conversations that take us away from our own thought processes. enough of external demands that stop us heating our inner tremors, enough of the pressure for superficial cheerfulness that denies the legitimacy of our latent inner melancholy and enough of robust common-sense that flattens our peculiarities and less well charted appetites we need to be alone because Life among other people unfolds too quickly.the pace is relentless.The jokes ,the insights, the excitements ,there can sometimes be enough in five minutes of social life to take up an hour of analysis .it's a quirk of our minds that  not every emotion that impacts us is at once fully acknowledged understood.you need your own time ,your own zone to let your natural real thought process come into existence without any exterior influence. people love to give advices and suggestions and that always creates an hindrance with your own thought process.borrowed thoughts or influenced decisions are never satisfactory. Recall any incident of your life where you took a decision under the influence ,no matter how correct it sounds at that moment ,were you happy taking that decision? we are all so fearful to spend some time in solitude and avoid people for a bit yet it seems like our solitary moments are in reality a homage to the richness of social existence unless we've had time to be alone we can't be who we'd like to be  around our fellow humans .we won't have original opinions we won't have lively and authentic perspectives. we'll be in the wrong way a bit like everyone else. we're drawn to solitude not because we despise humanity but because we are properly responsive to what the company of others entails extensive stretches of  being alone may in reality be a precondition for knowing how to be a better friend and a properly attentive companion  .