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I KNOW WHO I AM NOT - Self Talk

Dear big brown eyed woman,

Where you are not is just as important as where you are. 

Who you are not is more important than who you are. 

"i know who i am not "- The process of Elimination.Eliminate who your not first. just because you are doing alot more doesn't mean you are getting a lot more done.Don't confuse movement with progress.

As Mathew MCconaughey says- defining ourselves of what we are not is usually the first step that leads to really knowing who we are .

You know that group of friends that you hang out with?
That really might not bring out the best in you?
You know, they gossip too much, or they kind of shady.
They really aren't gonna be there for you in a pinch

Or how about that bar that you keep going to, that you always seem to have the worst hangover from?
Or that computer screen
right? the computer screen that keeps giving you an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real human interaction 
Or how about that food that would keep eating?
stuff that taste so good going down, but makes us feel like crap the next week
We feel lethargic we keep putting on weight

Well, those people, those places, those things.

Stop giving them your time and energy. Just don't go there. I mean put them down and when you do this, when you do put them down, when you quit going there
When you quit giving them your time you inadvertently,you find yourself spending more time and in more places that are healthy for you that bring you more joy. Why? Because you've just eliminated the who's, the wheres, the whats and the whens that were keeping you from your identity.Trust me too many options.So get rid of the excess the wasted time, decrease your options. 
If you do this you will have accidentally, Almost innocently,put in front of you, what is important by process Elimination.knowing who we are is hard .Give yourself a break.Eliminate who you are not first.
And you'll find yourself where you need to be.
Instead of creating outcomes to take from us, let's create more outcomes that pay us back. Fill us up.Keep your fire lit, turn you on, for the most amount of time in your future.
We try our best we don't always do our best .Let's study the habits, the practises, the routines that we have that lead to and feed our success.
our joy
Our honest pain
Our laughter
Our earned tears
let's dissect that, and give thanks for those things.
and  we get better at them
And we have more to dissect.
i choose to be  discerning
i choose it because i want it
you do it because you want to
We're gonna make mistakes.we've got to own them
Then we got to make amends,we got to move on
So turn the page, get off the ride
You are the author of the book of your life.

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