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WHY "LIVING IN THE MOMENT " IS A FOOLISH IDEA

"You know what you think alot. you must" Live in the moment". Each one of us have heard this line from friends, boyfriends, bosses .what a wonderful line to trick somebody's mind and convience them to break the shield and do what makes us feel good. i personally have lost the count of people who have given me this line as a "funda" of their life. Although this advice is alluring and justifying, it often fails to produce desirable results in the real world.
"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." Actually, in many cases, it ruins people's lives. Living for the moment is the reason people leave marriages,have flings, lose control over their health, and why America is trillions of dollars in debt.
 Instead for living for the moment, remember your past while taking decisions.
Although our distant past may not be pretty, our recent past is a clear indicator of our present circumstances.
How have your last two months been?
How have your last two days been?
Today is tomorrow's yesterday. Are you living today to give your tomorrow-self something to build off? Will you have momentum tomorrow based on your choices today?
When you live solely for the moment, you act on impulse. Your behavior is the product of circumstance rather than conscious choice. As a result, you often make regretful decisions.
Majority of girls suffer through heartbreaks by a sudden change in behaviour of their friend/boyfriend to whom they surrendered themselves in impulse for the sake of living the moment and making the best out of it.This cycle repeats on and on as they do the blaming on each other and commit the same mistakes again.For the sake of the living the moment they are so distracted over available leisures and easy things that they don't realise that they are missing onto real things, real love and real people and end up being the lonliest.i have seen such contrasts wherein guys will claim that he wants love and a fulfilling relationship and the moment somebody comes around,the first thing they wana do is getting laid. 
Conversely when you keep your past experiences in mind .you remember how it made you feel back then.
 As strange as it may sound, our memories of our experiences are more important than the experiences themselves. present decisions than acting based on impulse, circumstance, or your current emotional state.all the while, our memories are the very fabric of our identity.
A GOOD TIP
Imagine its your 70th birthday and you are the person being honored and toast a life well -spent. What would you like your loved ones to say about you and your life? What would you like them to say about your character and contributions? What achievements would you want them to remember? What impact would you have liked to make in their lives?
Indeed, living purely for the moment fails to comprehend the holistic nature of time. The past, present, and future are not distinct and separate entities. When you live remembering past, you consciously design your ideal future and simultaneously live intentionally in the present. You fail at one, and all are impacted—they are mutually dependent.


The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it."

Comments

  1. Kamesh19 April 2020 at 19:39

    Past is explored and it's your order. Future is unexplored and it's your chaos. Living the moment with just lessons from past can change the life. If merely acting on past experiences just limits you more than freeing you up. No one can merely live in the moment even to come to a conclusion to live in the moment is to take the decesion from the past experiences.
    Nice blog. Followed you in Instagram for what object I could percieve 😜. But after reading these, the subject is more attractive than the object😘. Will read more of your writings. Keep reading alot.

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